Independent Surrogacy Expert

My surrogacy journey has not always been smooth. I had several unsuccessful attempts that were challenging and emotionally draining. Right from the first step, I faced setbacks. The first agency I contacted had a good reputation on the Internet, but the reality was quite different. At first, everything looked good, but after signing the contract, problems began to arise. The agency was not transparent about financial costs and additional services. This created additional financial pressure and uncertainty. I had to terminate the contract and start looking for a new agency.

When I finally found a reliable agency, the process of choosing a surrogate mother began. The first few candidates did not meet my expectations due to medical or personal reasons. It was disappointing and made me feel like I would never find the right person. One of the surrogate mothers we had already started working with decided to withdraw at the last minute due to personal circumstances. It was emotionally draining.

The most painful part of my journey was the medical complications. After numerous attempts at artificial insemination, my first two pregnancies ended in miscarriages. These were very difficult moments when it seemed that all efforts were in vain. It took me a lot of inner strength not to lose hope and continue the fight.

After a few failed attempts, my trust in the process and the people around me was undermined. This affected my perception and made me more cautious. I learned to discuss my expectations and to have an open and honest relationship with all those involved in the process.

Despite all the difficulties and setbacks, I never stopped in my struggle to become a father. This experience taught me patience, faith in myself and trust in others. If you are going through similar challenges, remember that even the darkest moments can lead to light. Hang in there and don't lose hope. Your child is worth every effort.

This is a difficult path, but it is filled with hope and joy. Believe in yourself and keep moving forward, despite all the difficulties. Your dreams of parenthood can become a reality.

Like many other couples, we started out just hoping to start a family and dreaming of a little angel running around our house. But as it turned out, becoming parents was going to be a lot more difficult than we ever thought it would be.

So, after we got married, we decided it was time to try for a baby. We always said we wanted a big family full of laughter and joy. We weren't successful for a few months, but we didn't lose hope. But then a year went by and there was still no positive result, so we decided to see a doctor.
We had a bunch of medical check-ups and they told us we've got fertility issues. The doctor said I've got PCOS and my husband's got issues with sperm count. It was a bit of a shock for both of us. We felt disappointed and helpless, but we decided not to give up.

We started a course of hormone therapy, which included regular check-ups from the doctor. We were hopeful, but when the test came back negative, it was a huge relief. We had some unsuccessful attempts at artificial insemination, but none of them were successful.

After chatting with the doctors and thinking about it, we decided that becoming parents was our best shot. It wasn't an easy decision, but we were ready to take it on. We knew that having a child, regardless of the method, was the best option for us.

Our path to becoming parents was long and difficult, but we never lost hope. We believed that we could become parents, and we were ready to take that journey together. We hope that our story will encourage others who have faced similar challenges to find strength in themselves.

When our daughter finally came into the world, we were all taken aback by the sheer number of challenges we faced. The feelings of joy, sadness and gratitude we experienced when we first saw her were unlike anything we'd ever felt before. It was a moment that made us realise how much we had been worrying and how much we had been trying to do!

We often recall this path when we want to talk to others who think they have a chance to make their family. It was not easy. And if you are at the beginning of this journey, just be prepared for it to be difficult. We started when we didn't even have a clear idea of how it worked. We just wanted to be parents, and it seemed to us that it was just a matter of time, like many others. But in fact, it wasn't. Many of the things we went through could break even the strongest.

And you know what hurt the most? It was that we were alone. We couldn't share it with most people. It's not something that's often talked about in society. We felt that it was our private struggle, that we had to do it all alone. We often tried to hide all the pain from everyone so as not to look weak, but I'll tell you - if you don't give yourself the space to cry, to feel all this pain, you will break down sooner or later.

John: “Every now and then, I get the feeling that this was the most stressful time of my life. We tried our best, but it just didn't work out. It might sound silly, but with each new day, when I realised that not a single one of our attempts had been successful, I felt my faith in myself growing stronger”
Alex: “I remember the moment we finally found out we were going to be parents. I just couldn't believe it. It was like... John and I had lived several lives. Every setback felt like a blow, but when this little hope appeared, I realised why it was all worth it. John and I became even stronger, even closer. And although it was all painful, every moment of suffering had its meaning.”

But we don't want to make it sound like we're trying to discourage you from doing this. On the contrary, if this is your path, we want you to know how important it is to be prepared and honest with yourself. Don't be afraid to ask for help. It's okay for things to go wrong. You may have moments when you break down. But if you stick together and support each other, everything will work out as it should in the end.

If you are planning to have a child, don't be afraid to ask questions. Don't be afraid to seek support, even if it's not easy. And be prepared for things to change, and it won't be an easy road. But when you get your little joy in your hands, it will be all you need, and you will understand why all the hard work was worth it.

My story began with the fact that I had always dreamed of becoming a father. I was sure that I would be able to cope on my own. I had a good job, I had my own house, and I felt ready for motherhood. But I'm a single man, and so the choice I made was difficult: I decided to become a father through surrogacy

At first, it all seemed like a great idea. I searched for information and found support among people who had already been down this road. It was important for me to know that I was not alone, that there were other men who had also chosen this strategy. And although I had the support of friends and family, I was not prepared for what I was going to go through.

When I found out how much it would cost, I was shocked. The cost of the procedures, medical tests and payment for the surrogate mother was so high that, even with all my savings, I had to borrow money. I thought I would be able to cope with everything.

If you ever decide to go this route, be prepared for the fact that it is not only a financial burden. It is also emotionally stressful. It turns out that finding a surrogate mother is not as easy as it seems. When we found a surrogate mother, I thought that would be the last stage. But every stage was a new challenge. The fertilisation process took a long time, and although I tried to be calm, I was constantly worried inside. What if the embryo doesn't take root? What if there is another failure? I asked myself more than once whether it would be better to give up….

And here it is, the first attempt. The doctor said the result was negative. I didn't even know how to react. I spent all this money, spent so much emotion, and the result was this. I couldn't even say what I was feeling - pain, disappointment, anger, shame. All these emotions were intertwined, and there was no easy way through them.

The second attempt was made again, and this time there was a lot of stress: worrying, waiting for results, new procedures. And again, nothing. The third attempt - nothing again. I began to doubt everything: am I really ready for this? Do I believe that all this is worth it?

Every time I received a new negative result, I felt that the disappointment was getting worse and worse. I couldn't share it with others because everyone around me said, ‘Wait, everything will be fine, it's only temporary.’ But it was hard for me to believe that when I felt so alone in my struggle.
 I don't want to stop anyone from going down this path, but I want you to be prepared for the fact that things may not go as you plan. Not everything depends on you, and you have to be prepared for emotional downfalls. It is important to understand that this is not only a physical struggle - it is a very big psychological pressure. And you need to be prepared for the fact that it will be a long and expensive journey. You may not get the result you want even after many attempts.

My goal was to become a father, and even when it was very difficult, I always remembered that. When the long-awaited news came that a child was on the way, I realised that all these difficulties were worth it. But I would like everyone who is planning to do this to understand that this is a difficult path and you must be prepared for its pain!